Dearest @AlwaysMyself I don’t want to accuse myself of being a bad mother : but I was at times. Yes I paid for lots of tutoring, therapy, basketball, swimming, etc etc but I was suffering. both my adult children work crazy hard in jobs that are very different but both work very long hours. But the reality is Their father was a source of Domestic Violence (DV). Then my youngest son suffered cancer for 15 years. It took me 7 years to gather the knowledge : no support and the strength to leave him. During those years, my children's primary 'Atmosphere' was one of survival in my life. It took years to walk away from that …… Iv had years of therapy and trauma therapy. In reality though, because of a head injury 40 years ago ( 7 times clinically dead, 6 weeks in a coma ) my mother chose to come into my life and took my sons away from me when they were both turning 15. It’s taken years for them to forgive me and at the time I couldn’t do anything unless they would blame me for stopping them living with relatives. My past is behind me. However I note both my sons emotionally struggle. @Leeanne1 @Cappuccino_75 @Sunflowersage @RadAcceptance20 @Ru-bee I used to blame my 'sins,' but now I see it as Generational Trauma. it’s about acknowledging the 'Geology' we all had to survive. I’m not sitting here beating myself up. I have much faith that they both have support. Thank you @AlwaysMyself for making myself think. I’m having dinner with my brother 2 years under: he wants to talk about my mum : this message has helped me get a bit of clarity. @AlwaysMyself
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